Love, respect, friendship, trust and loyalty are the most vital ingredients that make up a happy and lasting marriage.

After 19 years of marriage, a 64-year-old man found out that his wife was actually born a man. Now, the horrified and devastated husband is seeking for annulment.

The Belgian man named Jan married his Indonesian wife, Monica in 1993. For several years, the couple lived a normal life. Monica, who is now 48 years old, became more like a big sister to Jan’s two children, which he had from his previous marriage, and they decided not to have any more children because of this.

But, Jan said their relationship only started to change when she got a new full-time job. “Monica began to change very much,” Jan said. “My oldest son saw her sometimes at a nightclub. She began to wear very flashy clothes, those ultra-short skirts or tiny tops.”

Soon, Jan discovered amorous messages from other men on Monica’s computer, and rumours started to emerge.

“A friend told me that he had heard that Monica was actually a sex-changed man. I could not believe it. My son heard similar rumours,” Jan said.

I confronted her and we got into a heated argument.

“I pushed her against the wall and said, ‘Now I know the truth?’ She then announced that she was born as a boy and that she had been operated on. She was now a woman, and so she did not need to tell me about her past as a man. My world collapsed.”

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“I feel I’ve been assaulted,” Jan told the newspaper. “ I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman. She had no male traits. “Even in bed, I never noticed anything,” he said.

Jan is currently undergoing psychiatric treatment due to his wife’s shocking revelation. Their annulment is underway.

His lawyer said, “That person has deliberately deceived him for years, even scammed. The children, who for years have lived with her, are devastated.”