On picture day, A mom noticed her son’s hands and she spotted something that she never saw before. The moment she looked at his hands, she completely lost it — knowing all too well what it meant.
Cassandra Lane is a sweet, hard working, loving mother of five, and she understands more than anyone how expenses add up. All parents want to give their children the world, however, as our responsibilities and children grow, supporting what they need financially can become a challenge.
For example, instead of a $5 toy from the store, before we know it, our children want more expensive items to make them happy and keep them occupied. Not to mention clothing and extracurricular activities.
Cassandra Lane (Photo Credit: Facebook)
Like most mothers with a big household, Cassandra has learned the financial lesson that money gets tight and everyone has to make sacrifices to keep the family afloat. But, there’s more to parenting than just providing the material things our kids need or want — we are tasked with teaching them valuable lessons too.
“Earlier this week we went to get Zeke’s senior yearbook pictures. On the way, I noticed his hands. Working hands. Hands that look familiarly like my dad’s work-stained hands and like Brandon’s in the early years of our marriage. I told him not to worry about it because they were doing headshots. I was wrong,” she explained in a post about the incident on Facebook.
Bothered by the incident, the worried mother spent the next few days reflection and crying a lot, she recalled with vulnerable honesty. Eventually, she apologized to her son Zeke, but she didn’t get the reaction she had expected when he laughed at her. Then, he asked, “Why are you sorry? Because you’ve taught me to work hard for things I want? Because I know the value of a dollar? Because I’m not going to think that I deserve to have everything I want?”
She added that she is beyond proud of Zeke, who took his brother shopping for a canoe, “using his money that he earned in a vehicle that he fixed with his own hands and gas he paid for by himself.” Cassandra concluded, “I’m not ready for Zeke to grow up, but I think he’s well on his way.”
Cassandra Lane and her husband Brandon (Photo Credit: Facebook)
Indeed, this is one child who’s being raised right and prepared for real life. And, that didn’t happen by having everything handed to him. He’s learned about the real world before being thrust into it, where many coddled kids end up getting a rude awakening. There’s no doubt that doing without has given him something worth more than anything money can buy.
He’s learned life lessons, built character, and developed determination and motivation. You can’t pick that up at a store, put it in a box, and give it as their next big gift. The most valuable things our kids need usually can’t be bought, and that’s what truly great parenting is all about. Raising a responsible, independent, capable adult is the best thing you can ever give your child.